12
Jun
09

Resolve: Pray with your spouse

Over the last two weeks there have been two pastors that I know that have been involved in infidelity and a guy I went to school with who has separated from his wife. Unfortunately these types of stories happen all to often. One would think that it would be different for Christians and especially pastors. I do know that when one sets out to serve God with a whole heart, he or she experiences attack spiritually and often physically, emotionally, etc. 

I think that Tara and I are beginning to learn how to keep our marriage on the “upswing”.  We are not perfect, by any stretch of the imagination. We both have our moments, but I think we have some basics down.  We are committed to praying with one another before going to sleep. This doesn’t always happen. But we pray together at least a few nights a week. 

There are really only a few things that typically cause problems in marriage. Communication, especially unspoken expectations is a significant issue. If you expect something out of your spouse, you can’t assume he or she knows it, you must tell them.  In a  marriage, you and your spouse must be affectionate to one another often and not only sexually.   To speak in generalities, men typically want sex to express intimacy, women typically want intimacy expressed in sex and a healthy marriage brings them both together. Bring them together and it does a great deal to guard against infidelity and improve communication.  Lastly, financial strain causes marital strain.  Debt and not following a budget affects your relationship. If you can’t talk about money without fighting, you need to figure something out. That is a dangerous place to be.  Finances affect communication and intimacy.  Funny to say, but you may have better sex when you get out of debt!

God can use marriage to form you more into his image. Marriage is a blessing from God, but it takes intention and resolve. 

I resolve to live my life to maximize the blessings God has given, not to squander them.

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