Posts Tagged ‘video games

22
Apr
13

fatherhood, video games, and the outdoors

If you are the father of young boys or teenage boys you seriously need to read this article reflecting on the boys who have acted out so violently in our recent history. The application to fatherhood seems pretty straightforward: If you let your boys play violent video games more than you spend time with them outside, you are messing up. Kids need to be with their dads and they need to be outside.

My 3 boys love to go outside and dig for earthworms around our raised garden beds. Give my kids some shovels and they are good for hours…literally hours. They also love going to the beach, fishing, flying kites, riding bikes and scooters, playing soccer, squirting the garden hose at anything, jumping in mud puddles, playing tag, and swinging.

We have limited our kids involvement in video games mainly because they hinder cognitive development. We have also seen from the exposure they’ve had to video games that they become addicted to them quickly and playing the games changes their moods. I don’t need studies to prove this to me, I see it in my own kids.

My kids need to be outside and they need me to do stuff with them outside. I don’t remember much of my childhood. It’s almost weird how little I remember. But I do remember fishing with my dad. 

17
Dec
12

processing the Sandy Hook Massacre and the varying responses

I have struggled to be able to write or speak of much related to the Sandy Hook Elementary school shooting. I have four children, one of whom is in Kindergarten, and when I have spent more than a few minutes contemplating these recent events, I go to a place mentally I don’t want to be. Preaching at Shore Community Church yesterday was particularly difficult in light of this tragedy.

I have a lot of questions about mental illness, access to firearms, violent video games, the impact of affluence on bored young adults, how technology rewires the brain, the impact of doomsday rhetoric on young people, school security measures, the impact of divorce on teenagers, and how the combination of these things motivated Adam Lanza to do what he did. What should I say to my kids? How much or how little?

Since I don’t know yet what my thoughts might add to the conversation as a nation mourns alongside a devastated small town, I decided I should just reference some of the things I have been reading and thinking through in this time. Certainly there are other things worth reading, but here are pieces that I have found helpful personally:

The Loss of the Innocents by Ross Douthat

God Identifies with Suffering by Tim Keller

Christianity, gun violence & the nihilism of Mike Huckabee by Phil Snider. To be fair, here is the Huckabee piece.

A Letter to my daughter by T. Michael Law

 

I would love to hear your thoughts in the comments section. Also, feel free to posts links to writings that you have found particularly helpful. If you go on a rant, I will delete your comment though.

 




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